The following article shall help you to understand your traumatic reactions better. The conclusion at the bottom of this article ties in with Dr Berceli’s findings – that trauma is common and inevitable and ultimately a chance for growth and evolution. The real problem lies in the fact that NORMAL reactions to ABNORMAL events are being viewed and treated as if they were a illness – thus people tend to marginalize and suppress them unless they are overwhelmed.
A radical change needs to take place and those who suffer in silence need to rise up and claim their rights – they are not sick, their survival reactions and coping strategies are perfectly normal. Whenever people understand this, find a way to reconnect with their own body and trust their own senses and reasoning, they have a real chance to heal.
Common Responses to Trauma and Coping Strategies
Patti Levin, LICSW, PsyD
© 1989, 2001, 2003, 2004 by Dr. Patti Levin
After a trauma, people may go though a wide range of normal responses.
Such reactions may be experienced not only by people who experienced the trauma first-hand, but by those who have witnessed or heard about the trauma, or been involved with those immediately affected. Many reactions can be triggered by persons, places, or things associated with the trauma. Some reactions may appear totally unrelated.
Here is a list of common physical and emotional reactions to trauma, as well as a list of helpful coping strategies.
These are NORMAL reactions to ABNORMAL events.
Physical Reactions
aches and pains like headaches, backaches, stomach aches
sudden sweating and/or heart palpitations (fluttering)
changes in sleep patterns, appetite, interest in sex
constipation or diarrhea
easily startled by noises or unexpected touch
more susceptible to colds and illnesses
increased use of alcohol or drugs and/or overeating
Emotional Reactions
shock and disbelief
fear and/or anxiety
grief, disorientation, denial
hyper-alertness or hypervigilance
irritability, restlessness, outbursts of anger or rage
emotional swings — like crying and then laughing
worrying or ruminating — intrusive thoughts of the trauma
nightmares
flashbacks — feeling like the trauma is happening now
feelings of helplessness, panic, feeling out of control
increased need to control everyday experiences
minimizing the experience
attempts to avoid anything associated with trauma
tendency to isolate oneself
feelings of detachment
concern over burdening others with problems
emotional numbing or restricted range of feelings
difficulty trusting and/or feelings of betrayal
difficulty concentrating or remembering
feelings of self-blame and/or survivor guilt
shame
diminished interest in everyday activities or depression
unpleasant past memories resurfacing
loss of a sense of order or fairness in the world; expectation of doom and fear of the future
Helpful Coping Strategies
mobilize a support system and reach out and connect with others, especially those who may have shared the stressful event
talk about the traumatic experience with empathic listeners
cry
hard exercise like jogging, aerobics, bicycling, walking
relaxation exercise like yoga, stretching, massage
humor
prayer and/or meditation; listening to relaxing guided imagery; progressive deep muscle relaxation
hot baths
music and art
maintain balanced diet and sleep cycle as much as possible
avoid over-using stimulants like caffeine, sugar, or nicotine
commitment to something personally meaningful and important every day
hug those you love, pets included
eat warm turkey, boiled onions, baked potatoes, cream-based soups as these are tryptophane activators, which help you feel tired but good
proactive responses toward personal and community safety – organize or do something socially active
write about your experience in in detail, just for yourself or to share with others
People are usually surprised that reactions to trauma can last longer than they expected. It may take weeks, months, and in some cases, many years to fully regain equilibrium. Many people will get through this period with the help and support of family and friends. But sometimes friends and family may push people to “get over it” before they’re ready. Let them know that such responses are not helpful for you right now, though you appreciate that they are trying to help.
The Chinese character for crisis is a combination of two words — danger and opportunity. People who fully engage in recovery from trauma discoverunexpected benefits. As they gradually heal their wounds, survivors find that they are also developing inner strength,compassion for others, increasing self-awareness, and often themost surprising — a greater ability to experience joy and serenity than ever before.